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Oh wow this hits so hard. I just finished writing the acknowledgements for my first book. I've read so many "To child1 and child2, thank you for letting Mommy leave the house and I'm so sorry I didn't spend more time with you." I just...didn't feel the same way. But I didn't feel the opposite, either ("Thanks god I have this work because otherwise I'd die in a pit of motherhood"). I ended up writing, "I hope you will one day be in the frustrating but ultimately lucky position of feeling torn between the people and the work you love." That's the truest thing I could think of.

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This was so perfectly stated. Your writing is so evocative of this particular aspect of motherhood. I want to share with you another writer's (and mother's) thoughts on this because it was exactly in the same vein and it was a balm to read. Sarah Ruhl wrote 100 Essays I Don't Have Time to Write: On Umbrellas and Sword Fights, Parades and Dogs, Fire Alarms, Children, and Theater. It is wonderful. I hope you like it.

https://bookshop.org/p/books/100-essays-i-don-t-have-time-to-write-on-umbrellas-and-sword-fights-parades-and-dogs-fire-alarms-children-and-theater-sarah-ruhl/8483584?ean=9780374535674

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